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Can a person have more than one best friend?

This morning I woke up homesick.  Being homesick is one of the worst feelings in my opinion because there is no real quick fix for it.  I woke up so homesick for my best friends.  When my mom asked me what my problem was I told her I miss my best friends.  With a comical and quizzical look she replied “A person can only have one best friend, hence the term “best” because they are the best.”  Hearing this I was befuddled.  After sorting through my friends trying to figure out which one of my close friends was the very best, I told her (in the utmost respectable way) that she was dead wrong.  I told her I missed all five of my best friends for different reasons.  Heres why.

my sentence finisher This is my best friend Kim, also known as Kimbo, Kimber, Kimbado, and Bub…whichever I feel like calling her.  Kim has been my best girl friend in CT since freshman year when she approached me at a football game and said “Hi my names Kim and I can lick my elbow” with the most big and friendly crystal blue eyes I had ever seen.  Since that day I knew we were going to be best friends.  Kim and I have NEVER had a fight. Ever. We don’t even disagree about anything.  We love the same things, hate the same things, and we think the same way.  Literally.  My mom has been with us and has heard her finish sentences of mine that that arn’t even common. For instance I started to say ” Oh my goodness did you see” and she finished my sentence by saying ” the new shirts in the window at forever 21?”  How random right?! That happens all the time!! If we said “jinx you owe me  a soda” every time we would forever be indebted to each other.  She stands by me through everything.  The best nights are when we rent a movie, eat hot fries and talk all night.  She has my back for everything as I will always have hers.

My next best friend is Justin!  This friendship is so convenient for me as Justin is my best guy friend and he is Kims boyfriend…and Kim is my best friend!  How perfect right?  Justin and Kim have been together going on four years now.The best guy friend I already called dibbs on the brides maid.  Not only do I love Justin because he treats my best friend better than anything in the world, but because he is always there for me when I need him.  When I have guy troubles, I first go to Kim, and then to Justin, or sometimes the three of us will talk on the phone or get together.  He always knows how to make me laugh and he is a perfect gentleman which is the only person I would approve for my Kimbo.

aka "Mama" or "Babygirl" I know most of you know Kristina Reyes!  She is another one of my best friends for so many reasons.  Kristina and I made a special bond because we met on the set of NBB.  Filming a television show together makes two people create and share memories that they can never forget.  K and I bonded in a way that I have never experienced before.  She is so caring and kind while also being just as silly as me.  We are always trying to come up with silly jokes and such.  If you haven’t already, please check out our youtube “Damselsinadress” where we basically act like our normal nerdy selves and press record.  K and I have the same interests, and of course we have a burning passion for two things, forever 21 and Taylor Lautner.  My house is also Kristinas as hers is mine.  Same goes for our families.  We are all so close and it was fate that brought us together and I know together we can and will do something great.

The Cute CoupleA friendship isn’t measured in the amount of time you have known the person.  I just met Brooke and I already consider her one of my best friends.  She is my west coast girl.  I have only known her a matter of months and it feels like years! My mom thinks we are “the cutest little couple” because we are both short and always giggly.  In this photo you see her and I in In-N-Out as we pose while stuffing our faces.  It was shortly after this picture that Brooke and I sat in silence for around % minutes because we were laughing.  Don’t ask me what we were laughing about because I have absolutely no idea.  The great thing about this friendship is that it is so genuine.  We are both involved in the business.  Brooke is an actress, singer, and dancer!  You can check out her single “Catch Me If you Can” on itunes!  Being in the business you meet a lot of fake, competitive, and greedy girls, but not this time.  Brooke and I are not competitive with each other at all! In fact we cheer each other on.  Being a newbie to the music field, she is helping me get on my feet as I am helping her get more involved in the acting field.  She is my twin when it comes to fashion, style and music, and we both have a juicy couture key chain that is so hard to find that I have never seen someone else with it before her! I cant even find it in the store!  She is as nice as she is talented and Im so happy I have my little twin to rely on and laugh with whenever I am in Cali!

aka Mo So like I said, Brooke and I are a cute pair of friends because we are both vertically challenged.  However, my next best friend is anything but.  This is Melissa.  She lives in Georgia and stands at around 5’9.  Oppositely, I think Mo (as I call her) make a cute pair of friends because the height difference is so extreme.  Mo and I go way back as we met in the pool in florida when we were eight.  Thats almost a decade ago!  Mo and I have kept in touch over the years and will for the rest of our lives I’m sure of it.  We have both been through so much and have helped each other through those tough times.  She is always there for me even though she is not physically there, I know she is just a phone call away.   She has the biggest heart I have ever known.

So this post is not only dedicated to my mom, but to also my five best friends. Even though most of them live in all different states, they all hold a special place in my heart.

Wow I got really corny in that last sentence.  Long story short,  a person can have more than one best friend and a best friend doesn’t have to be someone you have known for most of your life.  A best friend is some one you trust, be yourself around, and someone who makes you feel like there is no other place you would rather be than in their company.   Think about your best friend, or best friends, and think about all the reasons why you love them.

Best,

A.

I Promise Im Not Your Guidance Counselor

The word “bullying” gets judged as soon as it is heard.  Many thoughts come to mind when you first hear it, and if you’re anything like me you probably think of something along the lines of “corny guidance counselor”…but I promise you I am not your guidance counselor…corny however, I may be…no promises there.  I, among almost everyone else, have experience, and been a victim of bullying.  It is not something anyone should be ashamed of as it happens to so many people.  This is an issue that needs to be discussed, but so many people are afraid to speak out about it because they feel embarrassed about it…so let me break the ice.

Bullying came into effect when hormones did.  Around sixth grade is when it started for me.  A new school, new classmates, and many new opportunities.  I wanted to be popular so bad I thought I would have done anything to fit in.  I made some bad choices, such as choosing the “popular” friend over the true friend, and my priorities were all out of line…but hind sight is always twenty twenty and we all learn from our mistakes.  Im not proud of my choices, but I am honest about them.  In seventh grade is when my life drastically changed and I began filming The Naked Brothers Band movie.  I was so excited about the movie! I remember being so proud of myself and telling my “friends”.  I was dumbfounded when my friends reactions were mean and belittling instead of proud and supportive.  Long story short, these girls began to pick on me for everything, what I wore, my hair, my short height, how young I looked compared to them, my ethnicity…and the lowest blow of all…they made fun of me for not having a father.  I remember hating my life in middle school.  I would complain to my mom and all she could say was “Oh sweetie they are just jealous” but no person getting picked on wants to hear “they are just jealous”.  It feels like a lame excuse that doesn’t explain anything.  I came to realize that I didn’t really care what they said about me.  I was happy “doin mah thang” filming the movie, working hard to get good grades, and making friendships that still stand to this day.  I had made it through what I believed was the worst.

Wrong.

Transitioning from middle school to high school is like making the transition from your towns tween park and rec. softball team with the girls who are just there to have fun and play a game to playing on the high school softball team with the girls whos arms are double your size and their arms (which are the size of your legs) throw pitches that scare the life out of you.  High school scares the life out of you.  Everything comes a lot faster, stronger, and meaner, similar to the pitches these men dressed as girls are throwing.

I would say “I remember my first day of high school” but I can’t because I wasn’t there.  I was on set filming for the first season of NBB (Naked Brothers Band).  Great way to start my new high school…as a naked brother.  I knew no one either.  I arrive at school mid october and had a really great freshman year.  I made friends with almost everyone, even the upper class men, joined the JV cheer team, attended most of the  football and basket ball games, and made memories to last a life time.  Many people asked me why I didn’t make the choice to be home schooled like other child actors do, but I responded with the reasoning that I wanted to maintain a normal high school life.  I didn’t want to miss a thing.  Well I didn’t… especially not the bullying that comes with it.  I began getting bullied in my sophomore year.  It was this year that I got my first boyfriend.  I remember liking him so much!  I got criticized for not “doing anything” with him by the other girls who were “doing stuff” with their boyfriends.  They made fun of me that I wanted a boy “friend” who was my companion, someone to complain to, and  just someone I knew was going to call me before I went to bed.  I didn’t want anything physical because I wasn’t ready and I believe that teenagers rush into things these days.  At least some bullying was reasoned for.  I developed relationships with girls that didn’t care for me to say the least.  To be honest, I am not sure why.  I think it was maybe because I don’t smoke, drink, fool around with guys, and neglect my responsibilities in school.  It could also be that I was an actress, always missing school.  Again in high school I got made fun of for my ethnicity….let me repeat…in HIGH SCHOOL I got made fun of for my ethnicity.  Take a second to just listen to that.  In high school I expected everyone to be mature, but I was wrong.  I can understand making fun of me because I didn’t want to drink, or smoke, or have sex, or even that I was afraid to fail a test.  But to make fun of a person over something they cannot control is just trivial.  What did they expect me to say “Oh I’m sorry I’m a quarter korean…I promise on Monday I won’t be”.  Lets all grow up here.  Anyways, these girls antagonized me for the rest of my high school days at my private catholic school.  What irony that I met these girls at a catholic school.  You would think I would be upset, or jaded by them, but I honestly am not.  Through them I realized that I am a strong, determined, and powerful girl.  I love that I am made of a billion different heritages, I love that I am short, I love that I was on a TV show, I love that I stuck to my morals, I love that my mother wouldn’t be ashamed of anything I have ever done.  And most of all, I love how I dealt with bullying.

I rose above it.   didn’t get on their level and make fun of them back.  I didn’t take low blows at them.  I didn’t talk badly about them, spread rumors, or get all my friends involved in my problem, and for this I am truly proud.  I never thought I had it in me…but I did and so do all of you.

Bullying is serious.  It can lead to depression, TWLOHAself infliction and even suicide.  The company “To Write Love on Her Arms (TWLOHA) has been created to raise awareness of teen suicide and depression.  Did you know that bullying is a leading cause in teen suicide?  Don’t let yourself become a statistic.  If you are being bullied…REACH OUT!  It doesn’t have to be your parents, your guidance counselor, or anyone you think you should go to but dont want to.  You can talk about this issue with anyone you trust, it can be a friend, a cousin, an aunt…you can even come to me!  If you are being bullied YOU ARE NOT ALONE!  Everyone goes through it, but not everyone does something about it.  If we all speak up together we can put an end to bullying.

I promise you Im not your guidance counselor, but instead your friend.

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Best,

A.